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Give Them Their Flowers Now

by B.C. Raines on 05/10/19

Have you ever heard the saying, Give me my flowers now? I grew up hearing this saying and had a pretty good grasp at its meaning. However, I have to tell you that the older I become, the better I grasp this saying’s meaning.

Here’s my take: Honor people while they are living here on Earth. How do you do that? Buy lots of flowers and give them away? You could but try these too: Say thank you. Speak kind words. Encourage others. Congratulate others regarding their successes. Give a smile when passing by on the sidewalk. Just call to say ‘Hi’. Send a pleasant note.

Always remember…Sister U Matter!®

The SOAR Plan

by B.C. Raines on 04/25/19

A few weeks ago, we reminded each other that we can SOAR. I hope you caught it. You know…Stretch Out And Reach. Did you accept last week’s challenge and physically stretch out and reach? How did it feel? I hope that the physical motion encouraged you to mentally SOAR towards your goals. So what is The SOAR Plan?

Stretch-Set the goal. What is it? Write it down. Your goal should be specific and measurable. The measurable aspect will help you determine when the goal has been accomplished or what other steps may be needed to accomplish the goal.

Out-Go outside of your comfort zone. Set a goal outside of your comfort zone; outside of what’s familiar to you. I bet you have some pretty big dreams/ideas that you’ve probably talked yourself out of even attempting to pursue. “I can’t do that”, “That’s crazy” has probably been some familiar and often rehearsed self-talk over the years but the dream keeps coming. Try stepping outside of your comfort zone. Write out the dream/the vision.  Your dream just may come true.  Go beyond your normal.

And-Indicates that it takes more than a “wish list”; more than just thinking about the goal. Plan your action steps. Designate deadlines for completing the identified steps. Examples include taking enrichment courses to learn more about your area of interest or researching your topic on the internet.

Reach-Your action. It’s the extra stretch/push. You have to move towards accomplishing your goals. Try small steps. Identify an initial small step. That small step will eventually lead to the next step and the next step and the next step. Pursue your goals with tenacity—with all that you have. For instance, if you want to be a chef, start actually cooking, start experimenting in the kitchen. If you want to travel abroad, choose one destination initially and just do it. So reach—give the extra stretch.

Stretch Out And ReachSOAR. Who knows where you’ll end up!

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Stretch Out And Reach

by B.C. Raines on 04/12/19

What do you think about when you hear the word ‘soar’? I immediately think about an eagle. I envision the eagle soaring through the sky with its wings stretched wide. The flight looks so effortless and it’s such a beautiful sight. I am a graduate of Auburn University and one of our home game traditions is the “flyover” of the bald eagle. (The eagle is one of two of the University’s mascots.) I tell you each time I see the eagle soar, it captures my attention and the sight is so majestic, so awesome. The eagle definitely gets my attention each time.

Did you know that you can soar? That’s right.  You can Stretch Out And Reach-S.O.A.R- for your goals. Think about the image of the soaring eagle again. Its wings are stretched out and the eagle is moving towards its destination. It’s soaring.

Let’s try it physically, stretch out and reach. Do you feel the extra stretch when you reach? It’s the same when striving to attain our goals. Many times, it will take the extra stretch to really get us where we want to be especially if we find ourselves in a low point of our lives today. But just remember the eagle: from whatever point it starts, it's 'flyover' is still majestic!

Stretch Out And Reach…..S.O.A.R!

Don’t Wait

by B.C. Raines on 04/04/19


Don’t wait to do what you know you are purposed to do. Take a step, even if it is a very small one.  Start today. Start right now. That step could be even as simple as starting to discover what your purpose may be. Our life span here on Earth is so short and unpredictable. We truly can be well and living one moment and the very next moment, not well and/or not even living.

I am encouraging you in this way because I have witnessed (I’m sure you have too) and so many others are experiencing the sudden loss of a loved one. In many cases, the loved one was still so full of expectancy regarding all of the things they would accomplish with the rest of their lives and sometimes with a second chance at life. But suddenly and catching their loved ones by surprise, they leave this world still full of all of the purpose, hopes and dreams that they had come to cherish and anticipate.

Don’t wait. Live your purpose. Tomorrow is not promised. (To be really honest about it, the rest of today is not even promised.) Trust me--there will never be a perfect time. There will never be perfect conditions. There will always be something that seems out of sync but don’t let that stop you from moving forward towards achieving your purpose, your hopes and your dreams.

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That B Word

by B.C. Raines on 03/21/19

Sisters, sometimes life can just be unfair. It can be full of twists, turns and unexpected trials. Life isn’t bad all the time but when not-so-good things happen to us, it sure does feel bad; sometimes really bad-- like we’re at our worse point ever in life.

So, when we find ourselves in these places, what do we do? Do we react or respond? How does the bad, that B word, affect our lives? We make a ‘that B word’ choice: bitter or better. Yes, Sisters, we can decide how will we handle the adverse situations in our lives.

We can focus on the all of the I’s associated with the situation…I hurt. I was betrayed. I was humiliated. I was mistreated, etc. and when we focus on the I’s, that means we have chosen…bitter. Bitter keeps us stuck and stagnated in our emotions and our thinking. But we can also focus on the E in the situation. How can this elevate me? What lessons can I learn from this? How can this situation make me better? Focusing on better helps heal and move forward in spite of the not-so-good. Do you see the difference?

That B word—what’s yours? Bitter or Better?

Always remember…Sister U Matter!®

B.C. Raines